Spring Break in Scottsdale, AZ

Spring Break in Scottsdale, AZ

▶️ Play 🗣️ Lila R. ⏱️ 1h 25m 📅 15 Apr 2000
my name is lilo and I'm an alcoholic
thank you sandy
I just knew we met in the bathroom I I couldn't remember the exact details but
I'll tell you what happened in Dallas
three times in the bathroom is the same time that I was in that bathroom I also ran into another woman who explained that the psychological nature of calling to me
that they're so stupid you have to punch in to knock him out I didn't get it all but
right then sandy came and she was a boot maker and you know I don't know what happened along the way if you're lucky enough and I hope you are to have the length of time and and enjoyment and gross and good and bad times and surprise said Marty and I have had for the last thirty plus years I wish is that as I do everybody in the room and that's what it's about
and you're gonna be to all kinds of people
but every now and then somebody just gonna stand out and you're not even going to know why
and so we left Dallas Texas talking about sending the bootmaker
and then I don't know what happened but a couple of years later we talk to send it to make on the phone and then send the bookmaker moved to Phoenix and send it to boot makers and
you know and suddenly she's like a member of our family and Jane and I yeah send me you know
you know we run into radiance and is going maker
and actually your speaker this evening was supposed to supposed to be Chris
Christine H. and she is not today well enough to be here and I never feeling for anybody one of my going to this hallmark moment with Chris she wouldn't even appreciate it
we're good friends I mean over a kid and you know you know I get her name we give because my real nobody called
really what happens
but anyway they Tony called and I got the message you left a very nice message on on the machine about speaking in Phoenix Arizona and I said oh god you know just kind of do that you know ray had assured them that I wasn't going to be able to do it and he was rice really and
and then I called back to me to tell him well
just can't do it I mean how many conventions can even being do and blah blah blah and as much as this was one of my favorite years ago sorry I just you know I'm like
spending extra time on how I'm going to say no
because I really like Phoenix and I like being here when when rich she with the little bow tie was a co chair and and ray and seeing a number of people that I've had the opportunity to run into it it's just been a pleasure and
and it was hard for me and then this woman who answers the phone and because they were moving pilings or something I don't know and and she said by the way you know that I live with someone you all right now welcome to that see sandy the bookmaker
J.
with sandy the bank or
and James said well I guess we're going to Phoenix
no but there is a god and and and there must be great humor in that other world of grace reality and creative intelligence and everything that they talk about in the book because
you know she just got me back for trapping her in the bathroom there in Dallas all those years ago
I'm delighted to be here I'm having a great time you know I don't care how long you're sober life always present she would you know just little moment
or you get tired or you work too hard and nothing's happened to bother you and you know that the great benefit of sobriety and having some knowledge of how the program works after a while and working the steps and just hanging out with the turtle had I mean you know the amount of confidence that it takes to wear that have
yeah
I mean I really saw over three and a half months longer than she is but I would not swear that
I don't even want to know what that answer one
I lost my train of thought I think I'm all that you have this is the this is the turtle half there's a trial pass and
a real fish it sticks out both in
so we go to conventions I just just look for the lady and I have to don't to worry bout what I look like are you looks like she'll be there they'll be a hatch you will not miss out on that
anyway
so no matter what happens you'll have all these little challenges in your life and what surprised me and and the staff to meet a lot of writing serenity so let's not equate sobriety insanity right away they do not equate
now sobriety garden serenity that equates so you know the more practice and effort you put into your own program after about ten or fifteen or twenty years over when you have to
you know than the others is brought highway and and you know and all that happens on the broad highways that you find out that this little rest stops that you never saw for maybe five ten fifteen for my case eighteen years of my sobriety never saw the rest stop you know you go in pause and maybe have a little moment was gonna you know but visually find that there's little rest stops and and and this weekend has been one of those for me I mean it's just been a pleasant time for me to be here Jane and I have had an opportunity not an to spend some time
with some good friends that you would think that you spend time with when they live in your own neighborhood area city town but you don't life is so busy we don't fall so it's just been a pleasure for that and then to see people that I haven't seen and and then to relax but I have to tell you it was fun tonight at that time
okay
sandy I don't know if you know another break or anybody in every respect
it was a boot maker now she's no longer was probably still is but she doesn't practice the full professional boot making at the moment she is however professional auctioneer
we were set up with that table to buy sell tickets
I mean we were pulling money out of our wallets and rolling it out the woman anymore you have to go
so
you can add up to the lot of my friends really there's got to be a couple of years and try to the table and we were not so over there
and then reporters you wanted to start this thing it was doctor went mad because it wasn't fair have a
so many of the table have a group called just for god sake you can't start our ticket started and then
but I suppose is the memories fade and all those things go away and you know still got a a bird house with
you know beautiful yellow license plate on it and still is
rom Sonora which is close to superior I think in in in Phoenix so that's really meaningful and she got it past you now on her new place that you could put that you know I still wasn't sure we pay for it okay we paid a fortune for these
we don't even know how much they want I mean the money was flying across the table how many more thirty ten twenty thirty like got it all handled it was unbelievable the set up is what it is a seven
ritual setup
and still looking Sean I got a little angel thing and but the thing that I'm never going to forget thank god willing I'm so over a long and another service years thing possible in this world that that could happen you know and
can you imagine an Alcoholics Anonymous but they would end up having to you know have people that
could possibly be so over those people sitting in this room tonight they could see you know sixty seventy eighty years of providing extraordinary with young people coming is awfully synonymous that would be celebrating sixty seventy eighty years I hope Mardian are there to do that
but one of the memories that will never face for me because this has never happened to me and I can't imagine that would ever happen again this is Marty one a woman
first of all you know
if anybody ever thinks it's over people don't have palm you know
and then Lori what courage auction or so I'm off to this group of people it's amazing to me and then
Marty Windsor
suddenly we're thinking that probably won't be a problem on the way home tomorrow
but you know I'll tell you not only the maturity of age but the maturity of sobriety you know Laurie said to her
what are you going to do with me and Marty said well let me think about
work on all those other people jumped in and had a lot of suggestions
so I just could not possibly that go out on tape it would just be awful
so I don't know where you're sitting Laurie but
I've known Marty for thirty years
you are in for a really nice time
don't let that happen for your for one second
I think it stays on all the time
never too late Marty is never too late
what the hell is this going to do with alcoholics and on you know what everything to do with alcoholism
because it's about living it's about life your through drinking if you're in this room tonight and you don't have a bottle in his pocket you're finished it is over it says rice at the beginning of the literature and the a a you have recovered
finished the nollie done
if you drink again you will make that decision stone cold sober you will not be able to blame anybody for a bottle of Scotch will not come flying out of the sky get your arm and go down
just not gonna happen
you're supposed to be here you're supposed to have fun you're supposed to laugh you're supposed to live and that's what Alcoholics Anonymous is supposed to teach you to
and when it's all said and done you know and everybody has their opinion but that's what it says in the book you know they heard these guys as a practically whether forty of the mattresses in a couple hundred do you realize that the longest like to surprise she was four years
and that was Wilson
when the book was written
you know and then thirteen or so years later when the most surprising that could be even seventeen eighteen twelve and twelve is written
well now it's perfectly logical to me why that
because you know the people because
divinely inspired and so simple it has to be divinely inspired you comfort throughout the whole issue of myself rock the house in a room and come up with an answer so we both agree upon let alone forty to a hundred people who manage to like get this thing out to you know get this thing out and it was no surprise to me that the twelve and twelve S. written those years later because they rely what are we going to do with all these people now that they're sober
the world we're gonna do with him
there's over four five six seven ten fifteen sixteen and that time seventeen eighteen years oh my god
way beyond anyone's imagination
so we would still be your that off a holic would be here so bill Wilson being a man who had to stay one for the head of his depression the entire time you know the entire time
he had to write a book
for people like me
I wouldn't be so over today if I did not use eighteen to seventeen your fifties whatever of my sobriety
renew my relationship not only with the big book with a twelve year over five years sober and you don't have an intimate relationship with the twelve twelve you're missing something you don't have to do anything lots of people don't but if you'd like more it's there for you I don't know what kind of alcoholic you are but I know a price I am
I want to just
and that's the kind of silver personally I want it all
don't wait as long as I wages to take advantage of what is so freely given about how to live life on a spiritual basis an alcoholic and on and even if you do and if you're sitting out there with eighteen twenty twenty five or whatever years of sobriety doing today
it's so big it's so you
or whatever happened to those people when they first joined Alcoholics Anonymous is beginning to stop drinking and then they ran around because there was no
yes J.
forget
there was like no way I practically I mean the meetings were hours you have to drive to have to be that community that'd be that over exaggerated description of one on one you know people got sober without the book
there was no Facebook
the twelve and twelve was a distance search tool coming memory you know the the coming event
all they had was one drunk talking to another
and they had a huge religious implications of the
because it came out of the office FOR group you know they would I mean doctor Bob would drag him a secure since Romano needs with the best if that ever happened to me I wouldn't be sitting here I would think oh god sake you know just wouldn't work
again it was divinely inspired in the people killed people
so well you know
white male Christian book
well you know I just think that I could prove that to you by looking at it and but now you know what is the huge booklets fraud
you know the second story in the book is about a woman
she's dead right
I mean I have to make sure I I keep yeah of course you
anyway she's gay
he's never cannot yes the woman what is this someone's women suffer too I don't know if I should be saying this is what the hell right
you don't know and you sure the
it's it's Marty man Marty M. not this morning
the one the pretended she didn't want a woman but if you read the story women service you'll find out that she went out for breakfast or something because I don't know I'm making the names up like as a contact number then exactly was Jones and then she ended up later on that evening with route
now think about that for one sec
any practicing alcoholic woman gay lesbian knows what that means
but the great news is that the sector was the first story about the woman the woman was a gay woman the woman was a lesbian the woman is right there at the beginning of the rights in Alcoholics Anonymous
I mean the story about the the the the meeting that they had you know that this is in the New York City was wonderful may I sent you probably all know the stories don't you about marking out everything it's wonderful to know the fact that woman was there and and then they talk about
creative intelligence and spirit of the universe great sure allergy and and friend I mean the call god friend in the big book
doesn't sound too you know
whatever to me because it was too Christian I couldn't deal with it
I grew up in Ireland
with the non
it's going to be one talking on the very careful now I know she's here
just tuned in here just had a conscious moment
anything about nine
god I have to go much
but I find this book to be exactly how it stays all inclusive
not exclusive and it's for everybody and all kinds of people and I lost my train of sauce
not good what's going on here
anyway and the other thing that I think it's interesting that you might like to know if you don't know and I think maybe workshop in Dallas and all those things but there was a little meeting you know and I'll call right at the beginning when I had just be gone just be gone ahead just like you know stuff they finally open the meeting in New York City and you might notice no shock about and they had
welcome to the smaller group of men and their bill Wilson had gone back to his place where he can live with Lois and guy come to the door
he's a heroin addict he's wearing red B. to go he is wearing a red booted down
he's got that will go
do you happen
heroin addict transvestite knocks on the door of Alcoholics Anonymous
if your call is not a much was a year old it was not even
and I don't know what the hell to do with this guy
now the real story is I don't know what the prince because you know there's always a real story and I know a guy that's over forty eight years of new bill Wilson just told tell me the real story
the real story
this is they don't know what the hell to do so they find a phone a call Wilsonville we'll get down here we have this situation
duration
they should see this room about situation
so they they they call bill Wilson and they are like they don't know what to do and the guy is standing outside on the sidewalk waiting for the decision
and the wheels and slide down the street and he sees the beat it down
and he realizes this must be the situation
so we walked in and he says it says
does he have a desire to stop drinking
yes
well that is a member of alcoholics and
and then the guy went on to say remain sober and as we all know was very very effective in twelve step for you know because we don't hear a lot about that but obviously where would you go to do the work
and where would you find the other people
I'm sure you wouldn't go into like you know dailies bar
he would be down there wherever I don't know her when out of drunk alcoholic transvestites go you might know where these places are I have no idea what I'm sure that there was a big mess that went out and there were all kinds of people just like us and and I sometimes think that it's an obligation of those of us that have been told all stories that perhaps we should possum on service you really know falling through ordinarily build it is
this this many of you J. lesbian men women whatever or in this room to nice celebrating laughing and enjoying yourself you
you can thank the guy in the red dress that you don't even know
what is the guy made so I mean you have no
you know the guy that I was mentioning to you
like I kind of meeting with him almost most Sundays that I count and
this is the twelve steps and twelve traditions and that's also something called the twelve concepts which I hope that you take the time
your sobriety to really look us and that is home to talk about the business of how to find regarding hostages and the traditions of how we live as a group of people common unitech and the twelve concept about how the business of Alcoholics Anonymous and the organizations are called an automatic function under twelve concepts and probably some of the best pricing this he may have ever done you can just if you become G. S. R. sure general service representative I didn't rush right out and do that I did it over a long time it was a horrific experience
but I you know you can't say you don't have experience now published in on us I don't believe we should talk about it you know so I have to do that so that I could be critical
actually it's an extraordinary thing somebody's going to do the work and now they're in the process of revising you know the fourth edition of the big book and maybe in my lifetime it'll come out I don't know take a long time but the changing some of the stories but I have a funny feeling that women suffer too will still be in there and and different to you know Marty man and and the first woman so there's lots of women in the big book they put the first hundred men and they are you know the first hundred men there was a huge big issue about well we're the women and
I don't know they got women got half a concession at that time on that I think it says in the book the man but some other literature says men and women so it's really interesting to history of alcoholism I'm touched by it when I particularly come to like a convention
because you know from forty guys two hundred hours
two two million books
in princes to the last time I even looked at the thing ninety four countries all over the world I mean you can't go anywhere now without running into all Collison on a pretty much all the Venice we're investment to Hong Kong we couldn't find a new beginning as a whole big drama you know I like two days complaining about that but
so I do not
ninety four countries and they have the big because all of these languages and he is just extraordinary this organization that we belong to so much bigger than who we are you know who we are and
it's great you know what I I I like to remember that so I I like to be read because it humbled me
it humbled me it doesn't make me feel insignificant because I don't believe on insignificant anymore but it makes me feel
equal size to everyone else and that's really
I huge feeling from someone that spent
most of their mental time on the bathroom floor
you know that's why
again my spiritual journey with on the bathroom floor
but that's not necessarily true statement perhaps that's how we're I began my spiritual journey in my sober life it took me to myself in life but I believe that my spiritual journey began before I was even born because I have been protected by something somewhere somehow
from the day I was a soft
and I probably said I'll take those people
they drink I like to
I'd like to be born in Ireland
at some point I'd like to live over a pop
those are probably my requirements for coming back I'd like to have at least a few years of serious alcoholic drinking before I have to get over
whoever makes these decisions and the other universes spiritual universe of all time so she can have that put let's give her the blessed virgin we are kind of the mother is the father for drunken six brothers and sisters because she's arrogant
but now I can see the really can see a bigger picture I mean now that I have a sense and it's taken all these years that's why I talk about my experience taking so long it doesn't have to for you but it's only a really I would say in the last twelve or thirteen years that I feel that god is inside of me Rogers and outside of me and and and since the more I make room for this golf more I willing to do this magical thing in the book the talks about receiving in making room for garden that's what it's all about
the more I do that the the the the more I'm aware that this golf thing is huge and has been with me the whole time and now I can look back and I can see when I was protected when I was looking on doesn't mean that I did not have in my opinion
some horrific events occur in my life
what I survive
I have been protected I have survives and I have survived all of this I have survived life and death
incest and seeing things hearing things and observing things that on no one should hear see or observe and I have survived it's an extraordinary thing to know
that I have survived how do I know well I'm here I'm in front of the train I am not waiting for to run me over I'm the conductor
it's huge it's huge somebody had to be helping me do that it sure as hell wasn't me I was self will run wires I was protected all this time I now know that it makes sense I can look back and took the gun for final mold connecting the dots of my life were you know I can look back and I can see where something happened that now makes sense here beginning to make sense here is beginning to make sense here and that person said that they connected us I think my god it's like looking at the night sky in Phoenix
cleared I with all the stars and there's a line is just connecting to describe my life and it's no longer frightening to me and that's what's become of my venture in Alcoholics Anonymous that as I look at today and I look at my life in it and I continue to walk to step into these do the steps to take me through these inventories I beginning to understand the actually the kaleidoscope with my own life and the magic in the beauty of it in the colors of the people yes that I've been given like Jane good friends like Sylvia Martian Phyllis shown in
I mean it's just amazing
and it's just like probably this big
in a kaleidoscope and fill up the whole room
I just
I'm in my fifties never mind where exactly but I
you know I'm over thirty years over at I I'm on role
you know
the unfortunate part about this role is that I don't know where I'm going
I don't know when how where I've been waiting for years you know I
no longer work I changed my whole entire life right after I just spoke in Phoenix actually the last time everything changed and I mean everything
Terry speaking
everything
everything
I wish you that an alcoholic you know
I wish you that
I wish you
three or four lifetime while you're here for this journey
I wish is that anything happened
can happen
and it's all because somewhere way back
when I was a practicing alcoholic I throw
a woman drowned
a lesbian woman drunk
I must have in the state of unconsciousness
been desperate for help
been desperate I think that the big players came when I first joined Alcoholics Anonymous I don't the beginning of the concerts first perhaps
not even to a state of unconsciousness for about ten years of my surprise she happens
and I just don't drink you'll hang in there and got to go to meetings are for sure you know you'll bring
thank god was there but only when necessary and the bandaid god I had from officers you know and I had that god did you get when you do step one you know the parlous god and then you need to step two for godly jump right before and you know look at five and he just runs runs eight nine and then you hit twelve and do a bunch of propped up working for a coffee and stuff and that's it
because this over on that way all right people just do one and twelve
for sure but they just wanted to one four five eight nine and sometimes twelve
then they tell you that the only way to do the inventories in the outbox
you know they've only done it once
you know they don't know what they're talking about
the way you do the inventories were your sponsor tells you to do it
you know you hope to god they know
then you'll hear them talking I'll say like it's in the book
they do with with their sponsor child under to assess how would you
don't forget
the beginning there was no book
there was no way
there was no problem at all
they were just people desperate to get rid off the sickness inside of them
correct that has been praying while they were drunk and they didn't even know if they're anything like me I came off that bathroom floor auto blackouts
raging like an elephant in the room rate because I heard myself say god help me
I couldn't believe
I did not need anything
well I can look back now
and that's exactly what god did for me maybe not that exact minutes
a series of events that I can see so clearly began to happen in my line and go toward my end up
at a place called a hole in the ground in Huntington park California
it is exactly what it sounds like
they did not have all their T.
zero but I only saw the people that I thought were different
little blood in the years
I just think that they would go up to the nearest person and pick up all the Deathrow people and bring them to that meeting and then system at this table and then they would talk
Perry with big bottles and they
and we're not talking Texas you were talking California okay it's only different big bundles are not in there they were never in
but they're big and they have stage coach is in cats and dogs and horses and everything
I know because I was so wiped out when I first joined Alcoholics Anonymous I couldn't hear a word they were saying that your bridge to me and I was still having the you know I. D. T.'s when I got sober warrant did wasn't a hundreds of treatment center so you know we like threw up and hung out in the meeting
somebody throws up in a meeting no no my gosh then it was like what's
do you do you know where you know they put all the newcomers in the front
well we got I believe this because they Kerry you know that they really wanted is older white the front well because you know you get the message and you can't no no no throw up on each other
physics go sit with the newcomers
what are the new comer said wherever you see a big book we marked the spot
I never got a full Cup of coffee for six or seven months
they were we give you half a Cup of coffee I think Jeez what it was for copy that'll I guess it for his copy the old password even doing here
that's what I was really thinking who is the what is here for you we're
sure why Sir sure if you know the reason we're in to every day day and night twenty four hours a day like Marty sap always there
or their name would text me had these big blow
with those shirts with all trims and stuff you know and rolled up or T. shirts if they really were beginning to pop up when they first got sober right out of prison to be with the teachers fifty two hundred two souls were the nicest guys
they were the new most not and the most nice I must say the text guys are good they would just say hi lo
Jesus is
I mean I was already you know I was actually a dragging my leg when I got out of college and all of those and you know hi-lo's y'all could not me across the room
some like one good leg one bad leg I was frozen on one side of my body and start slapping me on the back like it's a party
unbelievable but the prisoners I mean they kind of new and they were real prisoners to me no you can't really talk about a lot of things now college and all she could be subpoenaed its problem but then they would sit up there and talk about you know
thank
may I had nothing to do with the stuff you know I mean I drank in the cost of Irish and I was again able and we don't cry and
it started right now but I used to have when I when I get really tired really drunk I would have one of those well my flow would come back with sticks take Irish program and you know my god they were crying and talking with their mothers and she was it was I should be taking them home so probably the extent I was just up the I had not completed yet the yep portion of my my alcoholism I was right on the verge you know but
these were the these wonderful guys and and the reason I know that is because
when the guy wasn't hit me on the back knocking your red cross room you know that Duke was over at the coffee pot pouring half cups for the new
why because you know if you had your company
there were you still on the I mean there's really logical and then they would have jelly doughnuts this is a life eight thirty at night to meetings B. eight thirty to ten
and you had to guess early
I did
I did I came off the bathroom floor
and before I knew it
I was drinking a half a Cup of coffee to go take your teeth out of your head
I was with the predominantly males group they were all great I mean slapped around by tax
due to taking care of me with the big book
and the prisoners and I are shaking up in the front row try not to throw up on
it was my introduction and I'm getting dressed to go to the meeting
I was going to do your and so less than in my own little mind that I got dressed in my most expensive whatever to go to this meeting like it matter
I actually had a guy throw up on my issue
I could not believe it
now the fact that I had thrown up on the bathroom wall and walked out of there like it was an everyday occurrence didn't phase me
I'm still waiting to go in there and say look you know
that's what it's for but you were the last one and I said I don't think that's
long a long a long
they just changed over no matter what they didn't say be honest no
erase over no matter what we don't care what you do as long as you stay sober okay fine
right to play now the guy that started it wouldn't go over
and you know the interesting thing about the study as I started to
found in December when I joined Alcoholics Anonymous because I was so terrified and so frightened justice over person I would sit in that room and I would feel the hair grow on my head
I wish all the time
you know I could never understand too then they they put it on the line at the door and you walk down the process is the home ground I would be there and they say okay shaking hands with every single person comes in
and it wasn't always the new comers I mean the roles you know whoever does just six three random people but they always pick one of us
and everybody that walk in the door with a high John hi Terry hi you must be new they would say to me
I couldn't figure out why the user
so for about a year
and I come in and I say somebody's hands and I practically had I drowned in hand so much frustration I thought that's how they know I said hi your new
there was tremendous
and then I graduated to being able to pour the coffee and they had excuse jelly donuts male having anymore in California we actually have some meetings in churches how do you get sober on a Kerry
salary and the death
clearly there's like somebody's like running out the alcoholic must be our hospitals are very healthy because we would not have lasted
we were required to be to jelly donut before the meeting started
so that I sure wouldn't drop when we would have a seizure in the
I mean that's really how it was I mean there's people that will tell you this is the truth I am not exaggerating eight even though I'm Irish I am not exaggerating
you know you have to get there early to have your little I used to see so you could have coffee and all social moment no that's part of the benefits but it's so that you can have your coffee and a donut
so that you have sugar in you so that you don't go out you know down on the floor
all right so I'll go I. once it dries on the floor is having a seizure like I stepped over imports a couple
it was years before I got it to just because we got sober doesn't mean anything change
no I it's and crap like that happen and bar
but it happens and I'll call you mom I got a couple copies skews me
what somebody else ran out of that little side room and drag him in by their legs and you know put the spoon and it was nothing for
that's how it works it was just the way that it will
how does that happen to me how do I get to the bathroom floor to this position and I state
and I had no intentions
I was only gonna stay
right
are we gonna cut out just struck a lot of stuff here so
that's it
Hey I wouldn't be myself I didn't go into the step thing
you have to do the garden you know you can't use over thirty years not talk about god and if you do not something I don't know what
for me let me just speak about myself
I really believe in the set
bottom line is that was it in the holy ground I never left I prayed to get their I. free before I got drunk one before I got sober obviously gets over I didn't say so I would like
I just help
I'm calling
I had up in Alcoholics Anonymous I realize I'm a raging alcoholic
peril is driving my foot throwing up on people in this room eating jelly donuts hoping to god that the prisoners are telling the truth
hoping to god that does look this in there all right is real
believe it
that they too are just like me and I'm just like them and we got this thing
shaking with other people
loving them because I was a lesbian I told him that so they kicked me out
I tried everything to get kicked out of the currently on my own I knew I was an alcoholic I die or work I wouldn't die
I just go under a bridge somewhere or something you know what I mean that's what happens to women alcoholics means you don't die
you know it's half dead but I wasn't dead
well the last a lot of years out there dragon along I mean we're we going to go from here
no we're
no one
I didn't know any lesbians at the time so but a friend of a friend of a friend new lesbian
of course all these old guys talked about me and they figure well you know
they didn't kick me off because it's a lot
what's that got to do with it sits down shut up and listen
and sit in the front row again clearly here of regret
read the book doesn't say anything about checking out lesbian no
we believe in the big book it doesn't say check them out everybody all of you I said well for the more you got a no I don't I'm not don't like god
I specially don't like your call
well which car do you think we have
well you have like Jesus forget it I think she's up there in Merion all of them Anthony I'll talk to seen him drunk so I know that there
but I just think they're highly involved you know I've got to do that and Buddhism and all the other guys too and all to have you and I just think they're like good PR and they're highly involved
so but they're not the big tickets by any
I'd better not be yes
because I already used up on my credit there
sorry
he said well I don't know what god you think I have
but
it's my god and you need one and ones that
so you better use anybody's god you confine myself ticketing to
when I had this big six foot angel would you try to strike it weirdly dot hope this takes like doesn't pan out because this is gonna be really interesting to my latest reference files but
scattered all over the place but and the speaking role with these huge driveway
and this angel and I went to meetings for year
and I don't enjoy it don't
and I made a little bit of room on the right and they threw up on the H.
hi
crazy people on doing a and before I know what I'm praying
I'm trying to try to make it and I'm trying to stay sober and I'm praying for the crazy people leave my head out of print for the eighteen voices the stock
in a print for the noise at night to go away and a print of some night some time maybe like other sober people I will be able to sleep with all the lights off
and I pray that maybe I can move back into the bedroom out of the living room and I won't be full frightened and a price that I want to verify my dorm I live by myself and I'm praying about all these things and I'm praying that you know I can make it and then I'm I'm going to be okay and then I'm really not a phony and that it's going to be fine and then I'm going to be fine and I can make it and it's going to be okay and I'm praying and praying in the spring and little did I know that those prayers then
maybe who I am today
you know I wasn't even paying for anything
anything
and I get sober for a while and the angel goes off to live with somebody else
you know they're free and non denominational me because
used to be Catholic but
I involved in
discuss the Catholic thing with the angel and said look it's over
I was Jewish friends that need to borrow you know
not a nomination
huh
and that was the beginning but you know I did not know them
that when I practiced and talked and chatted with this angel day and night night day in the car out of the car I was that I was having a conscious contact with god
I didn't know then that is beginning of my sobriety the habits of sobriety have a spirituality had already been formed I didn't know then that all those old guys by the way they found the lesbian they found the friend of a friend that has a lesbian
they had a little like good conscience about me and they thought well you know this is a hard life for a lesbian this was nineteen sixty nine so you know lesbians probably had a hard life I don't feel like talking behind a great life but
they thought I had our life and they want to just let me in to talk to me about not I'm sober and I have so much potential and all that stuff and I was only twenty two years of age over began and on covering from the creek you know the
being messed up and starting to speak normally and all that kind of stuff stuff that I was kind of okay and
but you should talk to me and convinced me that now that I'm sober I don't need to be able
and because it's such a tough life and if you're a lesbian of course well you're never gonna have any self worth and Christ you never to have Mercedes and
you never got money going to be struggling a whole god damn life was going to take Kerry
and I don't know how to type so I was really a mess I mean they said to me can you time I said hi
these people my mother used to say if you don't know how to type you're not going to survive in the world
no they tell you it's not a year two thousand I got a computer and I refuse to hit the keys because I still don't know how to type I'm getting over that so I'm like maturing about it I'm not practice okay but
do you know the type the guy says to myself why the hell would I ever need to know how to type Christ sake I made more money last year but you know let's not go there
yeah hi they were trying to tell me that you know lesbians are gonna have a rough life you're going to be like have nobody that's gonna love you because it's gonna be very limited and what have you and they're probably all drunks
because you know if your listing is not to be an alcoholic because you screwed up so why not drink I don't know what they're thinking was but it was very limited and they tell me that you know they have found a woman is going to talk to me now I love them for that I love them for finding a friend of a friend that was a listing
to talk to the little lesbian just there with all the prisoners the suits and the rest of them and tax down at the hole in the ground
so I shoot off the Beverly hills to meet with this let's
they picked the wrong person
she's almost successful women in the city
she's all messed up she's trying to tell me like this is not the life that's one to help me with you
you got the life I want I want what you have
you know I couldn't believe it and I went back and I said what do you guys know what
but I understood the law I understood the log and then unless you did show up she was over a little longer than me and was wonderful she broke all the rules and we both stay sober
I can't believe I said you're supposed to do this I'm going to come out
I'm not supposed to be the person telling you don't want me up against the wall you're calmer anyway I'm a slammer don't slam me I should be now when I'm sober long enough to know that I'm a farmer I'll do it but until then you could mess me up
we became dear friend she gave me my first twelve and I don't run down the door twelve inch one my one day at a time she's passed away since then Amy a and we became great friends and we educated all those taxes and prisoners and suits about lesbians and thirty years later I have not not benefit I have more self worth and the average person I think inside of me because I deserve it because I've got the tells me every day I accept you and I accept myself I have friends around me they Love Me and accept me I was very good life the quality of my life is good the quantity of my life for years was excellent the quantity ridiculous it's about the quality
and that's what it's about in a
today this is if you're a new beginning and new millennium I've been looking at this is a great locals great everything I can't do a middle middle men got there because the satyr I can't even say the bloody words
a new beginning and a new day
I can do today I can do today really well everyone of you in this room can do today really well I'm safe today
I'm safe today because I have finally got
today provides you
with the parameters within which to live your life so that you'll never get hurt again
you'll never be alone again and you'll always have a home
but it's within the parameters of the steps
but the fences built
now Alcoholics Anonymous can build the pastor for you
and it will build a pastor I'm going to all those meetings will be the pastor and putting out those coffees and having a meeting start every night at eight o'clock and Friday nights all the land of meetings all the wonderful things that are going on all these are available for you and I'll call it's not a big pastor and in the past you pick each other around and you love each other in your care for each other you'll see an odd call okay boss
and your find out all these things but if you want to build a fence within which you will stay within this past year for the rest of your life
well then that's going to have twelve strong poke
and nobody nobody can do that for you
they can tell you how they did it
they can suggest that you do wish they can tell you with the spiritual program that it's a spiritual pastor they can tell you this is a million sons and a million dollars and a million stars and one belongs to everybody and we all fit they can tell you that it's broad and inclusive and tremendous they can tell you that the grace realitysteve within each and everyone of us
but they can't work the steps for you
and if you're hanging around with people that don't talk about god and talk about the steps moving
because the faster you get it the better
and if you can't find anybody
do it yourself with your best friend
read the book again tomorrow
read this as a super person
read it is someone that needs to live
you will be astounded
health spiritual this you'll be stoned
I am astounded every single time I look at the book which is every month we read chapter
practice do you still
and then you're going to be knocked out when you find out about the stuff
or you're going to be on happy when you find out it's really hard to work just one
don't wait eighteen years to find that out so using the vending
if somebody says you what steps are you working on
so I'm working on all of them but I'm about at six on the way to seven I just left five
you can get the two if you don't do one you can get the three if you don't want to and you can't get the for free to one two or three X. cetera
you can't
and if you do
well I think the quality is just black and you're going to end up having to do it again anyway so your mother does this
you can't put your hand on a glass of water and leave a hole there all together the step
changed my whole entire perception and believe everything I've ever known sauce so or talked
and now I know that the first step of the program for Alcoholics Anonymous you're powerless over alcohol and that your life is a manageable in the first couple of years you need to know that you need to know that you can never drink again for the rest of your life you need to know that yes how you do it as a day at a time what you're here for ever you're here for many many whatever those are you are here for a very long time you can't have any reservations whatsoever you can have no little pouch in the back of your mind if she needs me if he needs me if this happens no you cannot drink the master Walsh hi this is nothing just around that have donors no matter wash when the people die when this great excitement and great sadness and grace love you live and you don't drink no matter why you walk through the valley of the darkness no matter why you will never be alone again no match for walks and then after a few years off my understanding that in the deepest part of you then you can say I am powerless over everything else
and it makes my life a manageable and you'll be doing that for the rest of your life
for the rest of your life
but it is only when you know that you were so powerless without any reservation whatsoever that you need Alcoholics Anonymous and the meetings you're going to drink you're going to leave the meetings you could be living in meetings right now in your mind because who the hell is she anyway beginning of trouble thinking like that about me first
but you cannot leave calling on they said to me you can never drink again for the rest of your life you have to go to meetings for the rest of your life and I believe this I believe it I believe it because I would forget
I believe it because I would forget right away it would be very short and if I start coming to these meetings and I don't listen for the similarities and I don't reach out and I don't care that it's pretty soon I'm not going to coming to the meetings I have a cigarette outside and then I'll have stay in the parking lot and then I won't leave the house and before you know it I will just be another faded memory in Alcoholics Anonymous and that's what happens that's what happens is it because
I don't know what it is I know it's a spiritual deficiency I don't because the Danzig isn't there
drunk because whatever no you drank because you don't trust no
you drank because you don't have a gone to drink because you're using god for nothing you drank because you expect somebody else to do it for you you drank because you didn't stay for your own bloody miracle and thank god if you're back thank god you came back thank god you came back we only know about the people to come back what about the people that come back
did you learn more from people to hear the people are gone no the people that are here people to live every day the people to fall down and get up fall down get up hold on to get up I don't drink no matter wall
people to come to the meetings no matter what the people with all those years and still put the sugar out people that are on these committees that year after year after year to compete to just that's who that's who you'll learn from
what you learn from the people the warehouse is they turn their back on their god is our god turned it back on them no they turned their got back on the
I did that sober
going to the meeting
regular tending at meetings of Alcoholics Anonymous I turned my back on my god I use my god like a bandaid
only for the crisis is and I had to be on the phone the J. worker stories me sober
no I read the book I read about the J. working except me sober
read about all those other people in there there about me all right Jennifer I when I was drinking identifying no
I mean how many times if you don't it's gone back on back on back on back to back no difference in the truck the truck
the first step is the most important step of the mall
because you have to know that you're an alcoholic and you cannot drink again for the rest of your life
and then you can go on to the second set
and if you go to enough meetings to put out your hand enough make enough coffee and drink enough coffee and do enough service and do whatever you will come to believe because you will see miracles that are not your own you're more inclined to see miracles and other people before you can accept the Jr Americal too and you're going to come to believe in the power greater than yourself that power is going to reach balance you take you back to Saturday I don't have time to go to detail the first step is a step of grace honesty you must be honest enough children never drink again for the rest of your life how you do what is the date of time only then can you move on to the second step to step up hope and that hope to restore that power and give you the power so for sure parlous and then you get the power back and then if you have enough honesty and you have enough hope you will be able to make the decision to turn your well your life over to the care of god and turn that over turn it over every little trouble every little soft every little inconvenience everything you don't understand everything that hurts you everything that anything will make a decision and the decision is very important and is your wheels will help you make that decision so don't buy this crap it's not been my experience that we have no will or will my will is what has me here in Phoenix tonight my will is what makes me make the decision everyday I have taken back my will in cooperation with my gaunt it is a huge advantage and I make that decision and if you have enough honesty in the first step and then I hope to get that power back then you have enough space to make that decision and only then would you have enough courage to go to for so rush
so when you're powerless you can get the power into when you can make a decision to activate that power and if you're really good at this you'll be able to activate that power from my manager really do insanity
and if you're not really good at it well you'll go right in saying and you'll mess up a lot of things but it doesn't matter that's how you know to do it
so making mistakes is absolutely wonderful in Alcoholics Anonymous it's how you learn is how you do it within the pastors of AA that's how you put those stakes in the ground and say this is my leaning post I have this honesty of one and I know that I am powerless and on manageable and then you put another stake in the ground and you say and now I know how it feels
feelings or fax how it feels to have this power and this hope and then you can go and put the next stake in that sense and you can put one down and you can say and now I have the face to make that decision to ask god for that hello
and then you put down the next day you can it'll be the stick of coverage because you've enough honesty and hope and faith you'll get the courage it comes with it as part of the deal the guarantees of promises all over the literature all out of the mouth of people that have done it before you experience speaks for itself and you take discouraging you look at your fears and you take a fact finding and that's facing inventory
it doesn't say emotional drama that I'm gonna kill myself with the justice fact finding
and in the first couple of years you do it justice whatever sponsor you've got tells you to do
and then after that you start looking at those fears because fear is the root of the whole
you look at your fears and you'll be able to do with it you know so it was a different foreign ten well my experience is that if you think about the problem along it's for
happens every now and then it's ten
the nature of your wrong just like give us all the time
and if you have enough honesty and hope and faith and courage you will be given enough integrity to listen to somebody's truth when you read this inventory through them I did tell them your truths and will be is so profound experience and they will say to you we love you
and the comfort you and that's all you can do in Alcoholics Anonymous
open your comfort the people love them and say it's okay
it's okay
doesn't say in the book we can throw you out
it's okay
then you have somebody that is enough I had enough honesty enough hope enough space enough and courage if courage enough integrity to do something that was so profound and I'm calling from almost a six step is so misunderstood it's worth it tonight I don't have time to discuss it but it's worth it to go home and to read the six seven to twelve and twelve are you will be shocked when it says
god can run will not render you wipe the snow without your cooperation
because when it's time for you to get to the six step well you know you're finished now being carried on the wings of the dove the floats around Alcoholics Anonymous you just been dropped on the ground and you have to stand up and walk like the rest of the
and you're gonna need to six deaths and you're gonna need to cooperate with god and you're gonna need to do it intentionally in order to do that and become entirely ready you're going to have to accept yourself
and that's what the magnificence is of the inventories and why you should learn to love from because the more you know about yourself and you read these inventories and five and you discuss it with someone else well the more you'll accept yourself
you know what happens when you accept yourself
a seven step the step of humility absolutely takes you over
it takes you over I don't know how to describe it to you it's like one day you're here and the next day you just step somewhere else
you're just there and you know the behind you is a powerful
and all the rooms and all the golf
and Anthony and Josephine everybody and they're all there and it's a great called never take you with the grace of god cannot keep you and you will know that
because you accept yourself
and you have the sense of honesty and hope and faith and courage and integrity
and acceptance and humility and it is only then after you're sober a few years V. D. that you'll be able to look around and say who have I heard
and your sober
and the compassion of eight will overcome you
and the justice equaling of the scale the Billy to walk down the street to never be afraid to look over your shoulder
knowing that you're free knowing that you're not afraid of anybody knowing that you can do and do would be anybody you want is the benefit of the from the nine steps a large part of the reason I step for me these days is a necessity for me to amend how I think about you so that I can diminish the level of judgment and worry this isn't me diminish the
right the minister judgment the more self worth I have more diminish the judgments of more so
and eighty nine helps me with that so was enough honesty and with enough hoping to
enough space in three
enough courage from the fearlessness of for enough integrity and five enough acceptance of only yourself in six enough humility automatically and freely given by just asking for it you don't have to do a C. nothing separate preferable to do nothing
you delay the process if you help
your job is to just do one through four meet with somebody for a little advice and five and then take care of your own positioning before you're called and six and then stop and pause
as Jane said in a workshop today
Paul with the spirit world miss we're all there is to will heal you just between the intake of the else take a few breaths
Paul
and that's the six is the place where you park with yourself and then god comes in and seven and heels you
it is impossible not to be healed
why
is it impossible it promises in the pool
clearly states a couple of times I think about three I'm not a hundred percent sure
yes if god can do for you the the absolute removal of the disease a terminal disease of alcoholism if they can take you off the bathroom floor and stand you in Phoenix Arizona
why would this god why with this process why would this belief why would this healing not work in absolutely every single solitary area of your life
I added a few words but go find that in the big box you'll be shocked
yes definitely and they're all all every problem is a spiritual problem and every solution is a spiritual solution
powerless to give me the power three I activate that part by making a decision for I look at the fears of blocked out power from getting to my ceiling five I say to somebody else and I thought of everything is that okay am I ready com I made enough room for god
six I say god I have done all I know to do now hi will step aside and put myself in front of you thank god will automatically take over and then I look around and see how can I continue to have this channel remain clear because if I cast a shadow in my life it is my shadow it is not your shadow and I'm back to ten the walk around stuff the step we gotta walk around every day and what is the center
somebody said to me was how you take ten steps how do you do that without not saying oh my god I have been powerless I need the power back I better make that decision what was in the way I have to talk to somebody on the phone I accept that please help me I won't do that to you again I was a little nuts when that happened to
and I'm back to ten years to be able to do that like that used to be able to do when the car cut you off on the freeway you have to be able to do with somebody steps on your toe you have to be able to do it with somebody throws up on your show in a meeting you have to be able to do that like back
so you can't just do ten used to do all tend to get to ten
and then you have to say what is this a call to see what they call the book new mistakes
what are the new you already gave me away
what are the new you took him back
well once you give something to the spiritual universe you do not get it back
it is new the next time you do it so when you like like an **** tomorrow you are you ****
so I don't blame anybody in a or in the world or in your job or your relationship because you were a problem
god healed you you took it back you have to do it all again
but you know to give you some peace and serenity is eleven so
it's so magical the sprayer thing because don't forget not if you would be in the through with me tonight and I wouldn't be here with you if we hadn't desperately wanted to go on a lot
if we hadn't been a state of unconsciousness parade so why don't we no four eight personally consciously conscious contact with god the angel worked it was a great this year of my life my first year of my surprising I turned everything over I believed in miracles I saw them I read what was I hate the word reform so Christian but I was revitalized recreation restored and then I took over for a bunch of years
well guess why it's never too late
I am restoring and recreation myself now in cooperation with my golf and how do I do it now well I learned the hard way and you don't have to I used to call got up and say I am here at the gates of heaven and I have the spelling of a problem this is how I think you should fix it I have a list of things we need to do
and everybody know college and all of us to say well you know you really work a great program
why was I dark
why didn't I believe anymore I worked with a great program well I didn't fix me all those things that are supposed to fix me
why
I never turn myself over to god
well I was trying to turn myself over Alcoholics Anonymous
but I was afraid to turn myself over to go
eleven step step where you have a conscious content I turned myself over to a fake make believe wonderful spiritual gigantic angel
but I wouldn't turn myself over to go
or the universe or the spiritual universe originator myself all the candles and mantras and the Maharishi and all kinds of crap I want for myself over to go
and my concept is far different than it was then what's this got it
and now I know what I was doing
and that's what my experience is to tell you bought me
I know ask questions and I don't wonder about the answer
I used to say I've turned it over to god for the results however
I'm helping
now I just say what you want me to do
every night for maybe three years I rotate your god leisure your great spirits
what do I do about this how do I know I write it every other night I read in the daytime I read it every few days all right in a column of the newsletter I write for ever whenever I'm trouble about anything and what do I run I don't even like the problem
god knows the problem
been on my mind probably for days before right
dear dog great spirits are use initial C. G. S. quicker
can't you know see over your shoulder Starbucks either so D. G.
what do I do how do I do it when do I do with how should I do should I call should I not call are you there
how my gonna know
when will you tell me what do I do when hall with where when should I every question I can think of
thank you I need love you live
when I throw it in the trash
and I step aside because I now know
how powerful that is
all right now know that if you have the courage to go home read the chapter the of gnostics in the six seven the seven steps in the twelve step in this twelve and twelve and start writing those questions get ready
if it all happened do once you be written up in the newspaper for Phoenix Arizona wherever you are hi it's a huge monumental event
and somebody says takes a long
some time
No Way
the power of prayer how do you activated well regrettably after you pass those questions you have to meditate what does it mean read all you can do a thousand things fine mountains can block candles you can do anything you want
it means
do you have to be able to Paul
I don't know how you Paul
I don't know how you do nothing
access to I can't say this thing's over it's a difficult thing for me anymore I mean it's the joy of my life
but nexus things over at the beginning in the first few weeks
do nothing the single hardest thing I've ever had to do my surprise
and still remains to be so today
Paul is the single hardest thing I've ever had to do and continue to have a difficult time with it so I use the serenity prayer is just to myself and and I because of the striper I can focus I pause and meditate in Alcoholics Anonymous meetings because I love to listen
because I hear the words I like the sounds like the sounds of the coffee I like the sounds of the people I like the sound before the meeting during the meeting after the meeting and I meditate in the calming to me
and I do nothing about my problem I do nothing
and you know what happened
they O. okay so
the doctor all connected I bump into somebody that tells me something I see it I hear it and a week or three later I'm talking to somebody and saying you know what that is that a and I don't even realize all the coincidences that have occurred
given everything I could possibly want it's right in front of me and it is just in the last few years that I have enough so forth to begin to ask my god for health
so people say don't ask for anything well I don't know who they are
I asked for everything
and if I'm not supposed to get it I'm not going to
if I am I'll be ready for it
the thing I asked for the most
is that I can continue to feel with the expansion that I've begun to feel
at the spiritual awakening that comes from having enough
honesty hold C. integrity courage acceptance humility compassion
just a sense of balance sincere for both of us
severe instant ten spirituality and twelve and the grace active service and I mean spirituality eleven and the grace active service and twelve because you can have something happen to you it involves a gall you can't even describe
you see on a longer believe I believe it is all possible Jesus Mary Joseph whatever they're all there so is my brother so is my nephew so are my uncle's Georgians grandmothers from my grandmother's so be it they're all they're they're all equal it's all that energy is all that information hi avail myself of it there's times when I feel that I'm here on the service and I can just reach through his hair and shaking hands with all there is I know the people I can't wait to see them again but I'm not in a hurry
they can't wait to see me but they're not in a hurry for me either because you don't leave one day sooner than you are supposed to
all the people that have gone on well I don't understand it but I know they went willingly with they're gonna matter how with the wind
and I know that they are there to look down upon me so the when I say I need to sleep
I'm troubled I'm worried what do I do how do I do it I don't have to worry they're rushing to help me they're rushing tripping over each other to come and help me they're falling over each other I don't know if people up there to trip over each other and the coming they're coming from generations of people I have never met that I belong to that I come from that are connected to me that a bumped into me that are connecting the dots for me the rushing to help me
I believe so
how does somebody that wakes up on the bathroom floor drunk woman lesbian alcohol
end up
strictly because of the concept and the beliefs and the broadness of the interpretation of the book of Alcoholics Anonymous and the twelve and twelve and the magnificence of the people who are willing to Cher how do I end up believing in something that is so fast and so big that it will take a life time for me to even feel it all it's extraordinary
not even explain the spiritual awakening and step twelve how do you explain that in a way that people don't think you're some kind I'm not
having had a spiritual awakening as a result of once putting out the coffee
no
you're just putting out the copy so you can learn to belong you're having convention so you can feel like you're part of something we're all going to meeting so we can feel connected so that you will feel safe enough to some they say hi A. will make the decision to take the walk the spiritual walk that I am destined to may
I have crawled on my hands and knees and now I'm going to stand up and I'm going to reach out and I'm gonna ask that god to come with me I am ready I am ready to go I am a sober woman lesbian member of Alcoholics Anonymous member of the world
I am no better or no worse than anyone else
I am ready to live
will you help me what do I have to do
and you will be told
you have to do the steps and read this literature and if you do what's possible that it's possible for you to take the time to do that in a very disciplined and practiced way to work with people in Alcoholics Anonymous who want to talk about this stuff
to go to meetings when they talk about gaunt to to to benefit from the exchange with people who have not more time sometimes we're impatient impossible
but the willingness to talk about god willing to talk about the steps the willingness to say I have come from an angel to all there is the willingness not be embarrassed by that willingness to face are gone head on and you're gonna do willing to love you even if you read whatever
not a guy call me please hi this is Marcia
I was curious what kind of got marches
he's got a guard to make to join with us people look like they're like a sleep
I love the guy hello this is a Martian
you can call me in a couple of years you must've taken off for March
and he's over a lot of time
it's about the steps having had a spiritual awakening as a result of these death
we Kerry this message what the hell's the message
guards waiting for you
and you're ready
guards waiting for you know all the newcomers that are here in the gentleman with the book and all the people over there we gave him the custom T. shirts wear them in good health
drink lots of coffee out of those cops
and for a lot of years like two or three maybe you're going to be under the umbrella of grace in Alcoholics Anonymous is you just go to meetings it's gonna be hard pressed to do anything wrong
but after that those of you that are five years over more
you're dragging your wheels and one of the greatest character defects the slow
and you don't deserve it
you chose to live that's why you're here
and the courage it takes to embrace god it's so big now guards waiting for you and whatever your guard is waiting for you at all there is is waiting for you and they're all waiting
and they they're just waiting all you have to do is say help me period
I don't know what you're gonna do
but I like to restore myself periodically before I came down tonight I felt empty and I got down on my knees at the end of the bed and I said help me
god my thoughts and my words and my team
I had the best time to I had the best time with the raffle and I had the best time with my friend Marty I'm so honored that we were able to stand here together
and give that young man well
but more than that I'll be honest with you
he didn't count as much as my standing with my friend
I hope you stay sober
but we're going to know each other for an eternity
and she's here and we've walked the walk and it's important
it's important they say the newcomers the most important person in the room not necessarily so for me
there's always going to be drunks we're going to have plenty of new comer
there's nowhere else to go really
after they kick everybody out of the treatment centers in the hospitals for you get the coffee the donuts you know where they give away women at Raffles and
thank you for allowing me to come to Phoenix thank you sandy sue for the airports Tony for your graciousness Jamie on the phone thank you to all of you for being so kind thank